Wednesday 30 January 2008

words are not enough

It seems these days I have a lot going on in my life, with less and less time for blogging. This is in some ways a good thing because I have always tended to blog when in some sort of emotional turmoil and felt the need for either help, or just a place to vent uninterrupted. Or sometimes its when I want people to maybe pause and think of however bad their circumstances,they should actually appreciate what they have around them. This week is one of those times.

You see ,this week one of my daughter's school friends died. She was 9 years old.

There was no warning, she left for school in the morning and just before her swimming lesson in the afternoon, she collapsed and never regained consciousness.

There is nothing anyone can say that will help ease the pain of her parents and it is unimaginable to me what they must be going through. The last thing any of us expect is to send our child to school in the morning and for them not to come home.My heart goes out to them and their family, and to the children and teachers of the school.
It has started to sink in with the children that their friend isn't coming back to play and all we can do is be there to help them understand, even though we can barely do that ourselves.

Life is precious and beautiful but can turn in an instant and be viciously cruel and unfair. We never know what's in store for us, and we can plan as best we can but I for one will appreciate everything I have good and bad that bit more and be thankful of that opportunity.

9 comments:

Unknown said...

I am so sorry to hear about that, it is heart-breaking.

I am glad you've come back to visit though. Where has DQ gone?

phoenix said...

Thanks John.
Seeing DQ in April and will say hello for you,she's doing great, life is full to the brim of exciting new ventures.

Unknown said...

She (dq) wont let me into her blog!

Elaine Greywalker said...

Shocking, unexpected deaths are the worst. Losing a child is also very bad indeed (I've heard). I've always been thankful that my children lived to adulthood. I can not imagine how horrible it must be to lose a child. Yet another problem that can be helped through a support group. I hope you and your daughter find the support you need.

general_boy said...

I really don't know how anyone could ever get over that - it's just mystifying how unfair life can be.

People live their lives fearing things like this - only to have them never happen. Others have pefectly normal, happy lives destroyed in an instant. As you say Phoenix... you just never know what's in store.

phoenix said...

John- me either so dont fret, she's not got the time at the mo.
Elaine-The school have been very supportive to all the children and teachers alike and I've tried to answer my daughter's questions as best I can.
Gb-There's a song out just now and it has the very astute lyrics in it which say "it's funny how you think you've got your whole life planned,just to find out it was never ever in your hands". Life is bizarre and at times like this downright cruel.

Drama Queen said...

hugs for you and mini-me. . .see you in april.

Love DQ and BF XX

Mr Farty said...

That. Kind of caught me on the hop.

My thoughts are with you and your daughter. x

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